Key to Happiness

 In this crazy world it’s important to remember to love yourself ladies. Love yourself on the inside and out. Who else can love you more than yourself?

I think now a days we get too carried away by what others think. Often we are too focused on what others may think or say about us, whether you’d like to admit it or not. 

Back when I was in elementary and middle school I remember my friends and classmates always told me how skinny I was. My friends loved to point out how bony I was and it got to the point where I thought something was wrong with me. I began to feel unconfident in showing my arms and legs because I grew very self-conscious. It was a tough battle. I never thought about how others words affected me, until now.

As I grew older I developed to have a mind of my own. I stopped caring what people thought of me.  I’m 5’4, brown skinned, with long black hair and dark brown eyes. Inside is a smart, funny and carefree young woman. Being skinny was one of my biggest insecurities for a while. It was so simple to just compare myself to others. I use to always think having a big butt or being a little thicker would make me “more pretty” or acceptable, but that’s not true.

 I learned to love myself just the way I am and I wouldn’t want to be anyone else at this point in my life. 

You should strive hard to accept and love your flaws! At the end of the day, what you think of yourself is all that matters. Don’t let anyone change you!

Want to know why it's important to love yourself? Check out  http://womanitely.com/reasons-important-love-yourself/

Sleeping Beauty

A few weekends ago, my friends and I had a movie night in one of our guy friend’s room. This started out as a completely normal and uneventful evening. We were all relaxing and watching Halloween movies. I fell asleep in this guy’s bed and my friends all left. 

I woke in the morning in this kid’s bed with him next to me. It wasn’t like he was a stranger. He was a friend of mine and overall a really cool person. Nothing happened that night, unless you consider deep sleep something worthy to be talked about. 

This is why I can’t understand why everyone made a big deal about this. The definition of a sleepover doesn't include "must've had sex" or "judge because they must've had sex."

My friends were all freaking out the next morning saying things like “I can’t believe you slept with him and “I thought you were better than that." Yeah, I also thought I was better than that too. I am ashamed that I was too lazy to crawl to room that night.

I didn’t deserve to be reprimanded for where I slept.

You don’t deserve to be reprimanded for where and who you sleep with.

There is nothing wrong with sleepovers in someone else's dorm. A day doesn't go by where I don't wish college girls could sleep in guy's rooms without being judged. This is a subtle and seemingly unimportant example of gender inequality on college campuses. 

Even if you do have sex with this person, there is nothing wrong with that. I don’t know if you all have noticed a common theme in my posts yet, but here it is: sex that is safe and consensual is nothing to feel bad about. 

Please embrace it.

Double Standards

There have been many times where women have been harshly judged because of what they wear. Often times we are judged and stared at in school, at work, at a party, or just out in public. I personally have a passion for fashion and makeup. I think it's very unfair that women lose respect just because of our choices of style.

The way you dress represents your individuality. It's a fun way to express yourself without saying anything. Makeup and clothing is completely your choice, don't let anyone else control what you do.

On a more serious note, dressing a certain way may cause attention. It's not our fault whether we may draw positive or negative attention. I mean think about it, we dress the way we do to draw certain attention. We want to stand out. We want to feel confident and satisfied with the way we look. Wearing tight skirts or short shorts doesn't give anyone the right to judge or take advantage of you.

The following link is an article about a young woman being put down for the way she dressed, take a look! This sadly happens everyday,
 http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2015/08/11/woman-slut-shamed-tube-by-man-commuter-defends-her_n_7970032.html