Ladies, did you have a fantasy
or a vision of how your time having sex would go? I bet you imagined being
madly in love with your prince charming, it feeling perfect, and in a bed fit
for a queen. Well, at least that’s what I thought and I’ve never been farther
from the truth.
I believe that society
gives girls these exaggerated expectations about losing their virginity so they
hang on to it longer. There would be no problem with this if these same
expectations were given to boys.
According to Psychology Today, “One in three boys ages 15-17 say they feel pressure to have sex, often
from male friends." Boys' sexuality is not only accepted but pushed on them. In
the same study less than 20% of teen girls felt this same pressure.
Even though we live in a
country where separation of church and state is present, religion has a
dominating role in our society. The Virgin Mary should’ve been publicly
stoned for having sex before marriage and consequently having a child. Joseph
also wasn’t married but nothing happened to him. I’m no expert in religion, but
this just doesn’t seem fair to me. This is what dictates our society. No wonder there are inequalities on men versus women having sex.
In the same way boys are “pressured”
into sex, girls are pressured into not having sex.
You may be confused on
where I’m going with this and how I plan on relating this to college. Even in a
university setting where everyone is a broke college kid, female college
students still have a fairytale image of losing their virginity and males do
not.
