Sleeping Beauty

A few weekends ago, my friends and I had a movie night in one of our guy friend’s room. This started out as a completely normal and uneventful evening. We were all relaxing and watching Halloween movies. I fell asleep in this guy’s bed and my friends all left. 

I woke in the morning in this kid’s bed with him next to me. It wasn’t like he was a stranger. He was a friend of mine and overall a really cool person. Nothing happened that night, unless you consider deep sleep something worthy to be talked about. 

This is why I can’t understand why everyone made a big deal about this. The definition of a sleepover doesn't include "must've had sex" or "judge because they must've had sex."

My friends were all freaking out the next morning saying things like “I can’t believe you slept with him and “I thought you were better than that." Yeah, I also thought I was better than that too. I am ashamed that I was too lazy to crawl to room that night.

I didn’t deserve to be reprimanded for where I slept.

You don’t deserve to be reprimanded for where and who you sleep with.

There is nothing wrong with sleepovers in someone else's dorm. A day doesn't go by where I don't wish college girls could sleep in guy's rooms without being judged. This is a subtle and seemingly unimportant example of gender inequality on college campuses. 

Even if you do have sex with this person, there is nothing wrong with that. I don’t know if you all have noticed a common theme in my posts yet, but here it is: sex that is safe and consensual is nothing to feel bad about. 

Please embrace it.

Double Standards

There have been many times where women have been harshly judged because of what they wear. Often times we are judged and stared at in school, at work, at a party, or just out in public. I personally have a passion for fashion and makeup. I think it's very unfair that women lose respect just because of our choices of style.

The way you dress represents your individuality. It's a fun way to express yourself without saying anything. Makeup and clothing is completely your choice, don't let anyone else control what you do.

On a more serious note, dressing a certain way may cause attention. It's not our fault whether we may draw positive or negative attention. I mean think about it, we dress the way we do to draw certain attention. We want to stand out. We want to feel confident and satisfied with the way we look. Wearing tight skirts or short shorts doesn't give anyone the right to judge or take advantage of you.

The following link is an article about a young woman being put down for the way she dressed, take a look! This sadly happens everyday,
 http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2015/08/11/woman-slut-shamed-tube-by-man-commuter-defends-her_n_7970032.html

Is Cheerleading A Sport?

All cheerleaders are:

Girls

Dumb

Stuck Up

Skinny

FALSE FALSE FALSE

All cheerleaders are not girls, both girls and boys have the equal option to cheer.

All cheerleaders are not dumb, in order to cheer you have to maintain a certain GPA.

All cheerleaders are not stuck up. Everyone brings something different to the table, not everyone is the same. From experience on various cheer teams, I have met the most genuine girls.

All cheerleaders are not skinny. Cheerleaders come in all different shapes and sizes, just like any other sport. You don’t have to be a size 0 just to cheer. All you need is a dedicated heart and a positive spirit.

Cheerleading is:

Not a sport

There are so many stereotypical assumptions about cheer leading.

I can understand where people may be confused with cheering, maybe because they never witnessed or lived through the life of a cheerleader. But there is WAY more to cheering than just “yelling and shaking their butts”, stated by anonymous.

Based on the NCAA and high school associations, cheer leading is not technically a sport. But, just by the definition of what a sport is… Cheerleading should definitely be defined as one.

According to Oxfords Dictionary, a sport is: “An activity involving physical exertion and skill in which an individual or team competes against another or others for entertainment”.

Cheerleading requires a lot of training, skills, practice and agility. When competing, doing very difficult flips and stunts is not an easy task. It’s not something you just wake up and know how it do. You have to work hard and practice over and over in order to master it. People don’t give the credit to cheerleaders where it’s due and it’s not fair. 

Cheerleaders aren't given the proper protection because of the fact that it's not considered a sport.  Cheering is just as dangerous as playing football, or even worse. Think about it, these girls are risking a lot when being thrown 20-30 feet into the air. Depending on someone to catch you when you fall can be such a scary thing. 

According to the Washington Post,cheer leading "is as rigorous as many other activities that high schools. Something seriously needs to be changed when it comes to taking this situation seriously, but how?