Sex is a topic that people like to talk in circles about. Everyone views sex differently, and that’s okay!
One thing that frustrates me is that both men and women shame virgins, like being a virgin is a crime.
The majority of the people that I know are either sexually active or have been in the past. It’s almost a common thing to not be a “virgin” in college, well at least people assume so.
“What [college students] do not realize is that approximately 25 percent of college students in the United States are virgins. And, even for those who have had sex, the most common number of sexual partners to have had in the past year is one.”
This statistic may be surprising to some of you. Everyone has extremely high expectations about sex when in the college environment. Believe it or not, students are not participating in sexual activities as often as you think on the college campus.
What is the big deal about being a virgin? Females have their reasons.
They either fear sex for whatever reason, they choose to stick to their religious beliefs, they haven’t found anyone to make them comfortable yet, or they simply have private reasons.
Why is it wrong for someone to not be as sexually experienced as you? It’s not a race. Our generation needs to stop shaming people for having a mind of their own. Making someone feel out of place just because they don’t want to engage insexual activities is completely wrong. But, it’s sad to say that it’s unheard of for virgins to be “accepted”, I’ve witnessed plenty of times that either male or female virgins are looked down upon.
Being in college for a few months now, I have witnessed a few guys that admit that they tend to “stay away” from virgins. Nothing is wrong with a female that wants to wait. Same goes for the men.
Our generations now a days are so fast paced when it comes to sex that they have made this unspoken rule that being a virgin is uncool. I disagree!
This is a common issue that I have noticed in college as well. Virgins should not feel embarrassed for choosing not to participate in sex. Your post did a great job to point out the key components of virgin shaming that I have also recognized on campus.
ReplyDeleteI like that you are brave enough to discuss such controversial topics. I like how your post explains being a virgin vs. not being a virgin for both men and women.
ReplyDeleteI like that you are brave enough to discuss such controversial topics. I like how your post explains being a virgin vs. not being a virgin for both men and women.
ReplyDeleteI have also noticed this as a major issue around campus, but am at fault myself for making the assumption that most college students are no longer virgins. Your statistic is perfect for making your point.
ReplyDeleteGood writing here! Divide this sentence after accepted so it won't be a run-on (and put punctuation inside quotes!):
ReplyDeleteBut, it’s sad to say that it’s unheard of for virgins to be “accepted”, I’ve witnessed plenty of times that either male or female virgins are looked down upon.